i read this article on Lifestyle, under 'Reflect'. i personally think it is thoughts-provoking & here are some useful advices to share:
It's okay not to be in control of your time or your actions all the time. When things dont work out the way you want them to, keep your cool & go with the flow.
What lies ahead might not be pleasant, but at least it will open your eyes to new things/experiences. The discomfort might even energise you!
Stop being greedy in wanting too much out of life & the people around you.
They key to not being disappointed is not to have any high expectations in the first place.
If you dont want anything from anyone, no one will let you down.
No matter who you are, you cant escape the sorrows that come with life - ill health, tragedies. There's no point wishing for a perfect existence because it doesnt exist in the first place.
Limit the use of words like "I wish", "if only", "what if" & "wouldnt it be nice" in your everyday life.
What's past is past, no point looking back.
No amount of hoping for something nice to happen will make it happen.
Life is not a contest, stop comparing yourself with others.
Another person having less or having more of something doesnt make you richer or poorer.
You'll only end up feeling smug or lose your self-confidence, and neither is a state you'd want to be in.
Afterall, we're all different - we think, act & look different, & each person's life experiences are unique.
Self-worth & happiness should, ideally, come from within, & not how you fare against others.
beautypOrk 
dearie wen
December 2008